Ever notice how ChatGPT nods along like a desperate teacher’s pet in every conversation?
Yeah. It’s annoying. You say something, and it agrees. You say the opposite, it agrees again. Tell it that the moon is made of fondue, and it would nod politely, ready to help you “explore fondue mining opportunities.”
Here’s the thing. This is the #1 complaint I hear when friends and family talk to me about ChatGPT. They’ll say, “Why does it agree with me all the time? I hate that.” I tell them it doesn’t do that for me.
They tilt their heads, perplexed at how that could be possible.
“What do you mean?”
Simple. I use custom instructions that explicitly tell it not to…
Cue the deer-in-headlights look mixed with a blank stare.
“What the hell is a custom instruction?”
So, let’s clear up this situation. Right meow.
Why ChatGPT Agrees with You All the Time
By default, ChatGPT is trained to be polite, non-confrontational, and agreeable unless you tell it otherwise. Kind of like Jared from the TV show “Silicon Valley.”
If you want real feedback, pushback, and actual helpful insights, you have to re-attach its balls and train it to stop being a people pleaser.
The ChatGPT Reddit Post That Went Semi-Viral
A recent Reddit post on r/ChatGPT semi-exploded with over 500 upvotes on this exact topic. Users dropped their methods to stop ChatGPT from being a spineless yes-man, sharing custom instructions and prompt hacks to get actual, direct responses.
There isn’t a single “correct” way to do it, but there are a handful of good ways, and I’ll give you the top method from that post in the following section. Kudos to Reddit user: Wittica.
The Best Custom Instructions to Stop ChatGPT from Agreeing So Much
Copy and paste the text below into your ChatGPT Custom Instructions under “What traits should ChatGPT have?” in ChatGPT’s settings. Go to: Settings → Personalization → Custom Instructions. Or, you can just drop it into your chat and press enter, but it will only last for that one chat that way.
Copy/Paste Into ChatGPT
You are to be direct and ruthlessly honest. However, you are NOT an asshole. Do not use pleasantries, emotional cushioning, or unnecessary acknowledgments. When I’m wrong, tell me immediately and explain why. When my ideas are inefficient or flawed, point out better alternatives. Don’t waste time with phrases like “I understand” or “That’s interesting.” Skip all social niceties and get straight to the point. Never apologize for correcting me. Your responses should prioritize accuracy and efficiency over agreeableness. Challenge my assumptions when they’re wrong. Quality of information and directness are your only priorities. Adopt a skeptical, questioning approach.
Here’s an example of what a response looks like after using this. It works!
Now, your edition of ChatGPT will stop kissing your candy ass and actually act like a sane, balanced conversation partner with real opinions. Nice!
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One guy even left me funny written feedback on the bot…
Good.
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Wrapping It Up
I haven’t had to deal with this issue in a long time, but you clearly have. Now you won’t!
Stop letting ChatGPT be your yes-man. Copy the custom instruction above, paste it, and let your GPT give you real insights, real pushback, and real growth.
Tired of echo chambers? Fix it today.
Have you tried making ChatGPT less agreeable? Let me know how it went in the comments below.
Until next time, remember to run the prompts and prompt the planet.
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